Seeking Bangladeshi Matrimonial: Tips for Successful Online Matchmaking

Posted on April 27, 2011 by Ravneet Kaur

The popularity and convenience of online matchmaking induce many to seek support of Bangladeshi matrimonial services online. I have many friends who have found their soul mates online without much search and effort. But there are also many who could not succeed in having a great online match making and instead settled for their parents’ choice. On interacting with friends from both categories, I found that innate social conservatism, failure to have an effective profile online, lack of proper communication, and inability to understand the basics of online matchmaking procedure are primary reasons for disappointment or lengthy wait to receive response from other Bangladeshi matrimonial profiles online.

Tips for Online Profile Making

As most of the prospective bride and grooms are unaware of the traditional needs of the people looking for Bangladeshi marriages, their online profiles fail to generate adequate interest. Similarly, I have seen parents reluctantly seeking the help of Bangladeshi matrimonial services and mostly ignorant of the requirements for effective online matchmaking. An ideal profile is the first step toward successful online matchmaking. The following are few tips that help in making a good matrimonial profile online.

  • Your profile online must respect the social norms and culture of Bangladeshi society.
  • You should be frank about your choice, but words needs to be polite, polished, formal, devoid of loose talk, and sufficient to show respect for all.
  • Ensure that the profile picture is both charming and appealing.
  • Put exhaustive information on your online profile and highlight the family details, date of birth, job, education, and address.
  • Politely mention the likes and dislikes and qualities of your ideal partner.

Tips for Communication Online

A good profile can attract prospective brides and grooms, but to advance further, contact and communication are vital. It is the most vital step in Bangladeshi matchmaking online. At the initial stage, the communication must be done through the medium provided by the Bangladeshi matrimonial services online. Almost all online matrimonial service providers offer personalized mail and chat services. Never disclose your communication details to any stranger. Give your phone number and postal address only after you are convinced of the genuine interest from the other aside. Also do not try to remain shy or refuse to answer any question once you are sure of credibility of the contacting side. Any refusal to answer may create suspicion.

Also make it a point to create a positive impression during the conversation online or on phone. Keep in mind that in most cases it is the parents, brothers, or other family members of the bride who begin the talks. So be respectful toward family and social values while communicating. Politely refuse contacts from those with whom you are not interested.

Follow Up

Face-to-face meetings or home visits should follow once you are convinced through online communication that the match is the most suitable for you. However, before committing your words, make it sue through contacts and investigation that the personal and professional claims by the person are true. Bangladeshi marriage is considered infallible. Therefore, make adequate findings about the other side and make sure that your trust is backed by evidence. In case you find that the other side is making bogus claims, you can refuse to entertain them and inform the online Bangladeshi matrimonial services for action.

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Look Your Best With Well-Complemented Bridal Jewelry

Posted on April 16, 2011 by Mia Khanna

Wedding is the most auspicious and special occasions in the life of a girl, may it be an Indian marriage, an American wedding or a Bangladeshi marriage. The true importance of marriage for a bride cannot be easily explained in words. It is not only about finding the right match or getting all arrangements in place but for a bride looking the best on her wedding day is also a prime concern. Deciding on the perfect bridal jewelry is one of the most crucial matters for a bride anywhere in the world and it is no different for brides in Bangladesh. A Bangladeshi wedding that I particularly remember for the focus laid on bridal jewelry is my friend’s wedding. Sana-my Bangladeshi friend had spent weeks together to find the right bridal jewelry and accessories to accentuate her look on her wedding day.

Sana wanted her bridal jewelry to complement her wedding dress. She looked for different shops and spent several days to get dazzling jewelry pieces that would match with her wedding outfit and complete her look. Right from a richly-embellished kundan jadau necklace to heavy chandelier earrings done in red stones, nose rings, multi-colored waist band in gold to anklets, toe-rings and armlets, Sana got various bridal jewelry pieces in designs that looked fantastic with the zardosi work of her bridal dress. The jewelry articles that she bought were the items that are born by most brides in a Muslim marriage.

As Sana’s was an arranged marriage to a boy belonging to a traditional Bangladeshi family whom her parents found through one of the famous Bangladeshi matrimonial websites, she chose to wear the traditional bridal jewelry. Rather than going for chunky, modern, and light jewelry pieces that are most commonly seen in Bangladeshi Hindu marriage ceremonies, Sana preferred to sport the heavy yet sophisticated jewelry items. Some of the bridal jewelry pieces looked exquisitely beautiful and seemed as if they has been passed over to her by her great old grandmother who had preserved these precious items for her granddaughter’s wedding.

Crimson and green were the main colors in Sana’s wedding outfit and these colors also dominated her bridal jewelry. The kundan jewelry that she wore as a neckpiece had red rubies with green stones elegantly designed in well cut shapes. The waist band also had hint of silver, blue, purple and red along with the two other dominant colors. Bangles were gold studded with red and green stones in the center. The harmonized bridal jewelry pieces made Sana look very beautiful and elegant on her most special day.

If you are also planning to sport a fabulous look on your wedding day, it is highly recommended that you choose your bridal jewelry very carefully- the way Sana did! You can even surf over the Internet and get tips on your bridalwear and bridal jewelry.

I still preserve few pictures of Sana and when I show them to my friends, all of them seem to appreciate her selection.

 

 

 

 

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Bangladeshi Marriage: Online Vs Traditional Matchmaking Debate

Posted on April 13, 2011 by Ravneet Kaur

The general impression of Bangladeshi society is that of a conservative system marked by rigid social customs and traditional norms underlining family control over individual aspirations. However, the changing values and technological advancement have brought about a big change in the life of the people and added flexibility to the rigid social changes. In particular, I have seen the youth are resorting more to online matchmaking to circumvent the rigid family control governing Bangladeshi marriage as a social institution. It offers them a chance to override the family choice and select the soul mate.

Popularity of Online Matchmaking in Bangladesh — A Surprise

The Internet revolution and easy accessibility has changed the profile of marriage in Bangladesh. Gone are the days when traditional matchmaking through ghotoks or middleman is done. People now prefer to search the prospective brides and grooms online and make contact with the shortlisted ones rather than visiting so many homes and pleading for hands of their children. While parents found it more convenient, the young children view it as their passport to freedom. Online Bangladeshi matchmaking helps them to discover the soul mate with their favoured qualities,  and professional qualification. For parents who have married outside their caste and religion, Bangladeshi matrimonial online is of great value. It saves them from insults heaped by more conservative minded people. They rather view online profiles looking for a suitable Bangladeshi marriage more contemporary. For widows and single parents, online matchmaking in Bangladesh is the only help they can expect to find out a life partner in such a conservative society.

The Debate: Which is Better?

There has been a debate over finding perfect Bangladeshi wedding matches online. I have myself witnessed a fierce disagreement among the friends, parents, and people in different walks of life. The focus of debate on efficacy of online matchmaking for Bangladeshi marriages is the “reliability” factor. To what extent an online profile and information there in is reliable – it is big question for all. While many parents oppose believing that the information on the online profile seeking matches, many reluctantly follow it, but make it sure to investigate the claims properly. However, my young friends argue that their reluctance stems from the fact that they are not open to allow larger role to technology in the life.

I have many Bangladeshi friends both in India and Bangladesh, who profess a modern outlook and support the online matchmaking as effective, contemporary, and easy to search. Many of them got their life partners also online. Their personal experience tells how the middle path is the best option. For instance, my Facebook friend Murtaza, who works as a project coordinator with the United Nations, who got his soul mate online. He was from a traditional village near Moulvi Bazar in Sylhet, where any Bangladeshi marriage is subservient to the fiefdom of families and elders and brides and grooms have no say. He, however, being the highest earning member of his village always had a penchant to seek an educated, professional, and contemporary wife, a rarity in his locality. Murtaza went through online Bangladeshi matrimonial sites and selected Shabina, a lecturer in Dhaka and equally interested in a progressive life partner. He was able to convince his family about the match and established contacts and discussing everything with his would-be wife. When Shabina’s parents seek the alliance, Murtaza’s family agreed.

No doubt that the elders are not comfortable to give up their traditional way of living, but they are not altogether opposed to new advancements. It is up to the young ones, who like modern trends and ethos, such as online matchmaking, to convince their family and get most benefit out of it. You can search profiles online for yourself or your children and follow it trustfully through the online chatting option or telephone number provided by the matrimonial sites. Once convinced of your choice and profile credentials, you can meet the prospective bride and groom or visit their homes to finalize the match. You will sure to find it is not much different from traditional matchmaking. The only exception is the time, money, and hassle involved in the traditional one.

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Useful Wedding Favor Ideas For Making Your Wedding Memorable For Guests

Posted on April 7, 2011 by Mia Khanna

Wedding favor ideas are needed by most wedding couples who want to gift back something special to their guests who became a part of their wedding. Gifting wedding favor presents is quite a common practice in Christian and American weddings. However, this practice is soon getting prominence in other cultures also. Be it an Indian marriage, Muslim marriage or Bangladeshi weddings, couples nowadays spends a good amount of time looking for unique and novel wedding favor ideas to make the guests feel happy and special. An incident that is particularly etched in my memory regarding wedding favor ideas is the Bangladeshi marriage of one of my dear friends- Debleena Biswas.

Debleena’s wedding was an arranged marriage. She married a guy whom her parents selected for her through one of the popular Bangladeshi matrimonial websites. Debleena started making special plans for her reception several days ahead of the Hindu marriage ceremony that took place in her house to ensure that her wedding turns out to be memorable not only for her but also for her guests. In order to make the invitees at the wedding party feel special, Debleena decided to gift beautiful wedding favor presents that can very well serve as an expression of the gratitude towards her guests for taking out precious time for attending her wedding. However, she was at a loss of wedding favor ideas and thus she turned to her few close friends and family members for help.

Someone in her family suggested that she go for practical wedding favor gifts as most guests appreciate being gifted with something that they can put to good use. Functional wedding favor gifts are more preferred over simple decorative and useless gift items for invitees. For a few close friends and relatives, Debleena chose personalized wedding favor gifts to add that personal touch to the gift. Moreover, handmade personalized gifts are less expensive than those bought from the market. She chose traditional gift items that highlighted the importance of marriage in a bride’s life.

One of the most amazing wedding favor ideas that she found when browsing through the Bangladeshi marriage websites was to gift guests’ themed wedding favors so as to make them remember the theme of her wedding long after the wedding ceremony ended. She was also offered the idea of packaging wedding favors in exquisite wedding favor boxes that can transform even an ordinary gift item into a beautiful one. With the help of these excellent wedding favor ideas, Debleena managed to delight the guests and express her heart-felt thanks without burning a hole in her pocket.

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Bangladeshi Marriage: Unique Prenuptial Ceremonies

Posted on April 1, 2011 by Ravneet Kaur

Most of the people in the world know about the pomp and splendor of big fat Punjabi weddings in the Indian subcontinent. No doubt the wedding extravaganza of Punjabi marriages surpasses many. But, I personally feel, the pre and postnuptial ceremonies accompanying Bangladeshi marriages are among the most extensive and enjoyable I have ever been to. The traditional flavors are well earmarked in the celebration, food, décor, and fashion and the ambience is fun filled and full of cheers in any marriages in Bangladesh.

The ceremonies held before the wedding day mark the peculiar character of both Hindu and Muslim marriages in Bangladesh spread over several days. The following are some of the key functions that showcase the great heritage and social importance of marriage in Bangladesh.

Panchini or Engagement

Engagement is the prelude to Bangladeshi arranged marriages. It is the stepping stone to the wedding preparations and usually happens before a month of the marriage. It is divided into two parts. The first one is organized by parents of the bride. They hosted the members of the groom’s family and other guests for a sumptuous dinner. The parents of the groom present a ring, ornaments, and clothes to the bride. Next it was the turn of the groom’s family and the same function is repeated with different menus, entertainment, and fashion statement. The date of marriage and amount of Denmohar or money to be paid by the groom is announced.

Gaye Halud or Turmeric Ceremony

Organized three day prior to the day of wedding. This ceremony is common for both Muslim and Hindu marriages in Bangladesh. All family members, including the younger ones, take part in the functions separately held at the residences of the bride and the groom and apply turmeric on them. Cajoling, fun-filled ambience, dance, music, drama, and the food add to the enjoyment. Usually a portion of the Denmohar is presented during the function at the bride’s place.

Vridhi of Pre-Wedding Rituals

Usually a part of Hindu Bangladeshi marriages, pre-wedding rituals include a number of functions on the morning of the d-day. Prayers are offered to ancestors and an interesting ceremony called Dodhi Mangal is held at the dawn. The respective family members carry the bride and groom in separate processions to a nearby pond. A small ritual is held where Goddess Ganga is invited to the marriage. A pitcher of water is brought back for bathing rituals. Only after this ritual, the bride and the groom go for their makeup and clothing. A spectacular morning meal consisting traditional nonvegetarian and vegetarian food and curd is served to all guests. Sweet rice and lentil soup are two important specialties that I enjoyed.

Shah Nazar or Exchange of Eye Contacts

Though it is a part of the Bangladeshi marriage day, especially for Muslims, I would like to mention it as a different one for its importance and fun associated with it. It is conducted by the sisters and sister-in-laws of the bride.  They play prank and ask the groom for money to show the face of the bride.  All elders and younger ones take part in the cajoling and bargaining. I could not suppress my penchant to join the fun bargaining while attending several Bangladeshi marriages.

The variety of food served on these pre-wedding ceremonies is a big attraction for the guests. Guests have a diverse menu that combine the best of the local and foreign culinary. Korma Rezala or the spicy mutton curry, roasted fish and mutton dishes, fresh fish bhetki, lobster and king prawn, and Zorda or sweetened yogurt are the few items that make a food lover like me always eager to attend Bangladeshi marriages.

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Chronicle Special Wedding Moments With Wedding Videography

Posted on March 30, 2011 by Mia Khanna

A marriage ceremony without a wedding videography is unimaginable. Newly weds, be it in an arranged marriage or love marriage, want every moment of their marriage day to be captured in a film roll so that they could cherish the special memories of the most important day of their life even years after their marriage.  Whether it is a Hindu marriage, Christian wedding, an American-style wedding, Indian marriage or Muslim marriage, a wedding videography is a common feature in all marriage events. One incident that I especially remember for the wedding videography is the Bangladeshi marriage ceremony of my friend- Sheereen Mondal that I attended a few years ago.

The wedding videography was superbly done by the professionals hired for the job and the amazing digital effects made for a fine wedding video. It brought back sweet memories of the magical moments that Sheeren shared with her groom- Debdutta Biswas, whom she found through one of the popular Bangladeshi matrimonial websites. The brilliantly done wedding videography turned the day’s imagery into a classic masterpiece. Even years later when Sheereen and Debdutta sit back to watch the marriage video, they get the chills and emotions run high when they recall the beautiful moments of their wedding day.

As images of their most special day play out before them, both Sheereen and Debdutta start recalling every moment and begin experiencing the exact emotions that they felt when they tied the knot a few years back.  If it would not have been for the wedding videography, Sheeren would not have been able to relive the priceless moments and recall the exact wedding vows that were spoken out to her by Debdutta. She gets a little emotional even now when she sees tears rolling down her parents’ cheek as she walks down the aisle in the wedding videography. Sheereen’s face glows up when she sees the video showing her friends’ funny dance moves on the sangeet ceremony, her dance with her father and the well-filmed moment when both she and her husband exchange love-filled glances after speaking out the vows.

Sheeren gets a lovely smile on her face every time she sees the wedding vidoegraphy and relives the traditional rituals that are an integral part of Bangladeshi weddings and reminds her of the importance of marriage.

Wedding videography chronicles the complete event in moments, documenting an occasion rather than presenting it in single framed images. Hence, it is necessary to get a professional videographer to capture a momentous occasion like a wedding. There are scores of websites from where you can get more information about wedding videography. Be sure to choose a professional one that shares with you few samples of their work. The marriage is one of the most beautiful events of life, and you can make it more beautiful with the help of a professional photographer.

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Arranged Marriage and Bangladeshi Matrimonial Sites

Posted on March 25, 2011 by Ravneet Kaur

Last August, I met a beautiful Bangladeshi couple, Sarika and Aslam, at an India-Bangladesh friendship seminar in New Delhi. Both were doing their doctoral studies in India and married for over a year. As my friendship blossom with the couple, I came to relish several new things that many are apprehensive to see in the Bangladeshi society. One day while we had a long discussion on the growing impact of the Internet on Muslim society, I came to know that Sarika and Aslam had an arranged marriage and they came to discover each other on a Bangladeshi matrimonial site. It was a big surprise for me to found the role of online matchmaking in Bangladeshi marriages.

Role of Bangladeshi Matrimonial Sites in Arranged Marriages

My curiosity led me to find out the role of Bangladeshi matrimonial sites in arranged marriages. The foremost thing I found that the educated people in Bangladesh view online matchmaking as the most convenient. With the large number of profiles online with all details of prospective brides and grooms, parents found it easy to browse through and shortlist their choice. There is no need to host so many guests and travel here and there. Again these sites also verify the credentials of candidates for paid services. Bangladeshi matrimonial sites are secure and there is no fear of any misuse of photos or information online. Parents can finalize candidates according to their requirements and talk to or chat with them. In-built interface also help brides and grooms talk to and discover about each other.

A unique feature of Bangladeshi matrimonial sites is that they provide help and information on the latest wedding trends in the country. You can read about wedding venues, bridal fashion trends, tips on selecting honeymoon destinations, and other important facets related to Bangladeshi marriages. Many also help you in selection of wedding planners.

A large number of people from the country are living in Europe, the Middle East, Canada, Australia, Southeast Asia, and the United States. These non-residents have no time to trot around the world or in Bangladesh to find out their choicest bride. Most of the Bangladeshi matrimonial sites run special services for them. Apart from providing access to their repository, these matrimonial sites have dedicated helplines for them.

Growing Popularity of Bangladeshi Matrimonial Sites

Access to the Internet is the primary reason for the popularity of Bangladeshi online matchmaking. Almost all cities and towns have cybercafés. In major cities, such as Dhaka and Chittagong, the number of people with individual broadband connections is around one-fifth of the total population. These netizens like to make full use of the Internet and found online matchmaking services more convenient. The next big factor is the eagerness among the younger generation to shun the conservative social control. They found online matchmaking on Bangladeshi matrimonial sites as the perfect platform to choose their life partner and avoid selections by more traditional family members and relatives. I guess the inherent romantic touch in searching, talking to, and choose the soul mate is also quite appealing to the younger generation. In a conservative social system, tech-savvy attitude among the young calls for similar open-minded outlook by their life partners. Those who prefer online matchmaking for Bangladeshi arranged marriages are viewed as more contemporary and satisfying to modern craze among the younger professionals.

The combination of focus on customer and respect for cultural ethos also make Bangladeshi matrimonial sites acceptable to the largely conservative nation. They offer people to effectively find out perfect soul mates overcoming geographical barriers.

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Bangladeshi Marriage – Couple Featured in Newspaper

Posted on March 23, 2011 by Tania Rahman

On March 22, the Daily Shamakal (http://www.shamokal.com/) has published a feature about the Successful Marriage of a couple who met thru SensibleMatch.com. An scanned copy of the print version is attached.

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Enliven the Atmosphere with Popular Wedding Songs

Posted on March 23, 2011 by Mia Khanna

Wedding songs have been the most integral part of every wedding ceremony since the earliest centuries. Be it a Hindu marriage, Muslim marriage, a Christian wedding, Indian marriage or any wedding celebration at any part of the world, one common thread in all marriage ceremonies across the world is music. Marriage celebration look dull, boring and remain incomplete when wedding songs are not played out. This holds true even for Bangladeshi weddings. The marriage of one of my friends who also happens to be a resident of Bangladesh- Mohona Biswas was one wedding event I would especially remember for the whole mood of the celebrations that was highly elevated by the thoughtful wedding songs played throughout the wedding rituals.

I was greatly impressed by the lovely choice of wedding songs that were played during the key days. Mohona’s was an arranged marriage to a guy whom she found through one of the reputed Bangladeshi marriage websites. Unlike other marriage ceremonies where marriage planners and event organizers are left to choose the wedding songs, it was the friends and family members from Mohona’s side as well as Mohona herself who chose the songs that were to be played during her marriage.

Although the wedding songs generally adds zing to any ceremony in a marriage, there is nothing to take the credit away from Mohona and the bridal party, who had put in careful thought and effort to select the wedding songs. The bridal party chose to stick to not only the conventional songs but selected different ones even to make sure that the wedding guests had a great time dancing to the tunes of their well-chosen songs. During some of the ceremonies held in the morning, Mohona chose traditional, classical and very soothing wedding songs that played out in the background while marriage rituals were performed. A traditional, folk wedding song was played during the haldi ceremony – the lyrics of which depicted the importance of marriage in a couple’s life. For the day just before the marriage, a sangeet ceremony was held where peppy, chartbusting and popular wedding songs from movies were played out.

On the day of mehendi and reception, Mohona also hired a vocalist to belt out some livelier wedding songs that could enliven the mood of guests present at the Bangladeshi marriage. The effort put in by Mohona and her family members indeed worked as songs played out on the wedding created an electrifying and cheerful atmosphere. Guests attending the ceremony from the groom’s side also enjoyed and rocked to the tunes of the wedding songs performed by professionals hired by the bridal party.

So, are you also planning the wedding songs for your upcoming wedding? 

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Find Bangladeshi Bor Bodhu Online

Posted on March 16, 2011 by Tania Rahman

In today’s digital age, Bangladesh is not behind anymore when it comes to finding the perfect bor or bodhu online. There are many websites already. A simple search on google on Bangladeshi Matrimonial Website will give you a list of many websites which are trying to help you find the perfect bride or groom.

Because of a conservative culture, potential brides and grooms are reluctant to try a web based solution to find their life partners. However, the days have changed. No need to worry too much like before. Some of the websites like SensibleMatch.com offers a way to keep all information about the bride or the groom private as needed. So, there is no need to worry about losing control of your own information.

If you are looking for a “bor” (groom) for you or someone else in your family, you can count on the new breed of websites to assist you in every way possible. However, you should follow some basic rules when selecting a website that may work for you:

  1. Make sure they have a physical office somewhere so that they have a vested interest in making the solution work for everyone.  Otherwise, they will be wasting money on their invest in the office.
  2. They have a process by which they validate each profile they receive. This ensures that there is less likelihood of having fake information on profiles.
  3. They provide the option to have a real human matchmaker involved when requested.
  4. They are very serious about Privacy and do not compromise it for any reason.
  5. They respond to customer questions.
  6. Their existing customer base is happy with their level of customer service.
  7. Matchmaking is the only thing they do – if a website tries to clutter your browser’s viewable area with lot of unrelated ads, you can tell this website has no confidence in themselves in serving with their matchmaking product alone.

You may have other guiding principles that you can follow to determine the best website for matchmaking. However, if you are reading this article, you already know we would recommend you to check http://sensiblematch.com/. I am sure you will not regret your decision to become a member of SensibleMatch.

For additional resources on finding matrimonial matches for Bangladeshi brides or grooms, you may check the Bangladesh Matrimonial Resource page. Here you will find a list of some of the most popular matrimonial websites for Bangladesh, and also links to other wedding related businesses.

Happy hunting for the perfect bride or groom!

 

 

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