The general impression of Bangladeshi society is that of a conservative system marked by rigid social customs and traditional norms underlining family control over individual aspirations. However, the changing values and technological advancement have brought about a big change in the life of the people and added flexibility to the rigid social changes. In particular, I have seen the youth are resorting more to online matchmaking to circumvent the rigid family control governing Bangladeshi marriage as a social institution. It offers them a chance to override the family choice and select the soul mate.
Popularity of Online Matchmaking in Bangladesh — A Surprise
The Internet revolution and easy accessibility has changed the profile of marriage in Bangladesh. Gone are the days when traditional matchmaking through ghotoks or middleman is done. People now prefer to search the prospective brides and grooms online and make contact with the shortlisted ones rather than visiting so many homes and pleading for hands of their children. While parents found it more convenient, the young children view it as their passport to freedom. Online Bangladeshi matchmaking helps them to discover the soul mate with their favoured qualities, and professional qualification. For parents who have married outside their caste and religion, Bangladeshi matrimonial online is of great value. It saves them from insults heaped by more conservative minded people. They rather view online profiles looking for a suitable Bangladeshi marriage more contemporary. For widows and single parents, online matchmaking in Bangladesh is the only help they can expect to find out a life partner in such a conservative society.
The Debate: Which is Better?
There has been a debate over finding perfect Bangladeshi wedding matches online. I have myself witnessed a fierce disagreement among the friends, parents, and people in different walks of life. The focus of debate on efficacy of online matchmaking for Bangladeshi marriages is the “reliability” factor. To what extent an online profile and information there in is reliable – it is big question for all. While many parents oppose believing that the information on the online profile seeking matches, many reluctantly follow it, but make it sure to investigate the claims properly. However, my young friends argue that their reluctance stems from the fact that they are not open to allow larger role to technology in the life.
I have many Bangladeshi friends both in India and Bangladesh, who profess a modern outlook and support the online matchmaking as effective, contemporary, and easy to search. Many of them got their life partners also online. Their personal experience tells how the middle path is the best option. For instance, my Facebook friend Murtaza, who works as a project coordinator with the United Nations, who got his soul mate online. He was from a traditional village near Moulvi Bazar in Sylhet, where any Bangladeshi marriage is subservient to the fiefdom of families and elders and brides and grooms have no say. He, however, being the highest earning member of his village always had a penchant to seek an educated, professional, and contemporary wife, a rarity in his locality. Murtaza went through online Bangladeshi matrimonial sites and selected Shabina, a lecturer in Dhaka and equally interested in a progressive life partner. He was able to convince his family about the match and established contacts and discussing everything with his would-be wife. When Shabina’s parents seek the alliance, Murtaza’s family agreed.
No doubt that the elders are not comfortable to give up their traditional way of living, but they are not altogether opposed to new advancements. It is up to the young ones, who like modern trends and ethos, such as online matchmaking, to convince their family and get most benefit out of it. You can search profiles online for yourself or your children and follow it trustfully through the online chatting option or telephone number provided by the matrimonial sites. Once convinced of your choice and profile credentials, you can meet the prospective bride and groom or visit their homes to finalize the match. You will sure to find it is not much different from traditional matchmaking. The only exception is the time, money, and hassle involved in the traditional one.
i m looking for a simple girl who loves her family and be with the family only…..